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Something I hear a lot from my clients, and that I

Something I hear a lot from my clients, and that I asked my therapist 8 or 9 years ago, is “How do I get rid of grief?” We need to reframe this question. Watch to learn more.
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What is Continuing Bonds Theory? Do you feel like

What is Continuing Bonds Theory?

Do you feel like you get messages from your baby through symbols? (like birds, feathers, coins, numbers)

Do you talk to your baby?

Do you write them letters?

Maybe you think about them all the time?

FYI - YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!

THIS IS NORMAL.

And there is even a name for it - Continuing Bonds Theory.

In 1996, grief researchers and experts Phyllis Silverman, Dennis Klass, and Steven Nickman suggested a paradigm shift from the “get over grief” narrative and, instead, moved towards a model that normalizes the bereaved’s need to continue their relationship and bond with their loved one that died.

You see, remaining connected can bring the bereaved mother comfort because grief, like love, is ongoing. It doesn’t die when your baby does. A mother’s love lives on forever. And continuing a bond with your baby is not only normal but helpful for you to grieve in a healthy way.

So continue your bond with your baby that died, because sadly, babies can and do die, but a mother’s love, never. A mother’s love lives on. Always.
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On Baby Loss Grief: “What would you like engrave

On Baby Loss Grief: “What would you like engraved on your daughter’s urn?” was a question I was asked that baby books didn’t prepare me to answer.
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It is #PerfectlyNormalAfterPregnancyLoss to still

It is #PerfectlyNormalAfterPregnancyLoss to still be grieving days, months, or years after your baby died.
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I thought I was going crazy. In the weeks after my

I thought I was going crazy. In the weeks after my daughter’s stillbirth I could feel her. Or what I thought was her, known as phantom kicks coming from my barren womb. I really believed I had felt something move inside my uterus even though my brain knew she wasn’t there.

So was I going crazy in my grief after my baby died?

According to researcher Mary-Frances O’Connor, Ph.D., author of The Grieving Brain, I was not crazy and you are not crazy if you experience this.

It’s completely normal to search for your babies after they have died.

O’Conner found in her research that it’s a common experience for the bereaved to look for and even sometimes to see their loved one that they know is now deceased.

This is because our brains make virtual maps of our loved ones in our minds over time.

Your baby’s place where they are supposed to be - in your belly or arms - is where your brain expects them to be.

This is how the first parts of attachment form and tether us to our loved ones across space and time - in these brain maps.

Your brain on grief means that the brain maps of your loved ones are interrupted and confused.

Your brain is adjusting to the idea that our babies simply no longer exist in this dimensional world, which our logical brain struggles to comprehend because, according to our brain, this idea of them no longer being there is an illogical answer as far as our brains are concerned.

So remember, you aren’t crazy, just grieving.

Your brain and body are just missing your baby as much as your being is.
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It has been 10 years since my daughter died. In th

It has been 10 years since my daughter died. In those early days, I could have never imagined reaching this point. Here are 10 things that no longer bother me 10 years after my baby died.

1. I no longer want to punch people in the face that say, “Everything Happens for a Reason.” I still do want to punch people in the face that say, “God needed another angel in heaven,” though. But instead of adding aggravated assault to my record, I give a big eye roll that I no longer hide.

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It is #PerfectlyNormalAfterPregnancyLoss to always

It is #PerfectlyNormalAfterPregnancyLoss to always wonder who they would have been.
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